How Could You Know?

Nicole Westcarr 1971 (New York)

You never knew and no one could tell you,
Truly what adulthood means.
Once believed, now understood,
Unlimited freedom is but a myth.
Responsibilities for others supersedes the ones for yourself.
Security of every kind becomes a dream,
As what must be done now, must be done
And there is no place for future needs.
What’s to be done?
Consider your needs above those of others? Address the needs of others,
To the exclusion of your own?
There is no option.
You already know what Christian ‘Law’ requires. Nothing else will suffice
And so panic may begin to rise.
Prayer is the only way to survive.
In those moments thriving is implausible, Improbable!
Survival is what is key!
Continue in Hope that after the phase of survive, You will again be able to thrive.
In survival mode the days are enumerable
They can become dark.
Seeing the Source of Light and Life,
Can be difficult and exhausting.
Stay in Hope.
Find a Way.
Be intentional.
Do the things that bring you Joy,
Gives you Peace.

No one could tell you.
No one truly understands.

About this poem

Parenting your parents as they age and go through dementia and what that means on a mental, emotional, physical and financial level. No one could tell you. There is no way to know... until you know. Jesus help me!!!

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Written on July 24, 2023

Submitted by nicole_w on July 24, 2023

1:09 min read

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Closest metre Iambic tetrameter
Characters 1,134
Words 231
Stanzas 2
Stanza Lengths 28, 11

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  • amelia_n
    These words you wrote are reassuring and encouraging, I enjoy the rhythm of your lines, they move along naturally and sound easy, which aint. Beautiful poem.
    LikeReply10 months ago
  • luisestable1
    The poems develops a situation and gives conclusion to it. At the end is up to us to do what is best for us and with that in mind we should operate.
    Good read!
    LikeReply10 months ago
  • donka_k
    Gradually intensifies the major theme. Until the clear raw answer is spelled out. I enjoyed reading this poem.
    LikeReply10 months ago
  • lorna_l
    To echo your final thought and As Metallica wrote : nothing else matters.

    Family folk faith fidelity finances future
    LikeReply10 months ago


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